It has taken me a long time to grow in to my relationship with Zeni. When she first came home I didn't feel that same kind of primal love for her that I do for my son. I have spent so much time agonizing over everything being equal - do I love them equally? Treat them equally? What would that look like? What would that mean?
This week a close friend, without even knowing it, showed me that you can love and cherish all of your children because of, instead of despite, the different ways that they came into your life. That you can feel each child's needs and pain and that you can respond to those needs even before the child knows it is there. Click here to find out how she did it, and please, if you live in Spokane then COME to the event, and if you don't think about donating to this event or to Hospital Albert Schweitzer, one of the few up and running medical facilities in Haiti.
Finally, I know there are a lot of adoptive parents who read my posts (thank you!!) and I would love to hear your stories - was it love at first site? If you have other children was that a factor in bonding? Are you still going through the process?